Court in action – a day of UK protests over the shame of parental alienation

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A group campaigning for parents to share their children after break-ups held a series of protests outside court buildings across the UK this week.

Members of D.A.D.S (Dads Against Double Standards) set up camp outside the main doors of court houses as part the protest which took place in more than 30 towns and cities across the country, including Edinburgh, Swansea, Liverpool and Belfast.

DADS say that many fathers and family members are alienated by courts and find it difficult to get shared access to their children.

The group believe it would be fairer if each case was decided on an individual basis and a ‘50/50’ parental responsibility was agreed in the first instance by the courts.

A leaflet handed out by the group states: ‘‘Parental Alienation’ is illegal in Brazil and is widely recognised in the US and Canada.”

Fathers’ rights groups like Fathers for Justice have received attention in the past for their outlandish protests but DADS spokesman Andrew John Teague, who lives in Swansea but decided to protest in Bristol with fellow activists, said: “We need to stop parental alienation, the courts know it’s an issue and they must begin to act on it, it’s a failure in the justice system.

“We’re protesting to get the law changed to make it a criminal offence to alienate a parent. It should be recognised as another form of child abuse.”

Andrew described how he spent two hours talking an unnamed member down from his despair. He said: “I couldn’t put the phone down on him, how could I? I have felt similar feelings to his in my own personal battle to keep in contact with my daughter.”

And Andrew revealed that more and more of his time and the time of others running the site is spent talking to divorced parents who have hit rock bottom as their ex-partners twist their children against them and they come up against the brick wall of beaurocracy which ham-strings courts, social services and the CSA.

Many parents find it so difficult to see their children that despite paying hundreds of pounds in maintenance they are also paying for supervised access. One man says this costs him EIGHTY pounds a time to spend two hours with his child.

Estranged parents – who have perhaps lost all contact because of lies that have been told about them by a bitter ex – are certainly vulnerable and to some suicide can appear to be the only way out.

NACSA,  a lobbying group set up to fight the way the CSA hurt divorced people, actually published an online ‘Book of Death’ listing those who had taken their own lives because of stress and loss.

 Sadly though, this type of comment appears on a daily basis on the Dad’s.Against.Double.Standards site highlighting the real despair parents without custody go through:

“Drunk and giving up on life, no point anymore, never gonna see my daughter grow up into the woman she’ll become…”

“Night all hope the drink and my meds work and I don’t wake up …”

“GOD finding it really hard to put the Christmas tree up my heart is just not in it this year…”

Andrew said: “There is a phenomenon the world over, parental alienation. Hundreds of thousands are denied access to a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents.

“Sadly it is often the mother who develops a pattern of parental alienation not only from the father, but from all of the paternal family. This obviously works the other way too but statistically more men become victims.”

Custody battles have sadly always been a case of winner-takes-all with one partner – usually the mother – getting the biggest prize, the children.
But the fact is that children need their fathers too and shocking figures reveal that up to 75,000 children every year in the UK alone could become the victims – and the innocent guided missiles – of Parental Alienation Syndrome.
Andrew   said: “We see lots of cases like this and yet Parental Alienation receives very little attention.”

1 thought on “Court in action – a day of UK protests over the shame of parental alienation

  1. It is not only Dads that suffer parental Alienation. My partner seen her son just 7 times in the past year. The court was told that it is the son’s wishes and feelings not see his mother. My partner loves her son more than her own life and is desperate. How can a court rely on a child’s wishes and feelings when a parent is clearly controlling the poor child. Wishes and Feelings is not a sound measure and is ridiculously open to abuse by the alienating parent. The law needs to change.

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