A dad campaigning against parental alienation talks here about the diminishment of the role of a non-resident parent.
He asks a very important question, do authorities such as courts, social services and Cafcass actually recognise the existence of non-resident parents?
Or do they see them simply as figments of the imagination?
This video by Andrew J Teague, from D.A.D.S (dads against double standards)
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1720744094852341/ reveals the true agony of becoming a victim of parental alienation.
And Andrew says that more and more of his time and the time of others running the site is spent talking to divorced parents who have hit rock bottom as their ex-partners twist their children against them and they come up against the brick wall of beaurocracy which ham-strings courts, social services and the CSA.
Many parents find it so difficult to see their children that despite paying hundreds of pounds in maintenance they are also paying for supervised access. One man says this costs him EIGHTY pounds a time to spend two hours with his child.
Estranged parents – who have perhaps lost all contact because of lies that have been told about them by a bitter ex – are certainly vulnerable and to some suicide can appear to be the only way out.
NACSA, a lobbying group set up to fight the way the CSA hurt divorced people, actually published an online ‘Book of Death’ listing those who had taken their own lives because of stress and loss.
Sadly though, this type of comment appears on a daily basis on the Dad’s.Against.Double.Standards site highlighting the real despair parents without custody go through:
“Drunk and giving up on life, no point anymore, never gonna see my daughter grow up into the woman she’ll become…”
“Night all hope the drink and my meds work and I don’t wake up …”
“GOD finding it really hard to put the Christmas tree up my heart is just not in it this year…”
Andrew said: “There is a phenomenon the world over, parental alienation. Hundreds of thousands are denied access to a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents.
“Sadly it is often the mother who develops a pattern of parental alienation not only from the father, but from all of the paternal family. This obviously works the other way too but statistically more men become victims.”
Custody battles have sadly always been a case of winner-takes-all with one partner – usually the mother – getting the biggest prize, the children.
But the fact is that children need their fathers too and shocking figures reveal that up to 75,000 children every year in the UK alone could become the victims – and the innocent guided missiles – of Parental Alienation Syndrome.
Andrew said: “We see lots of cases like this and yet Parental Alienation receives very little attention.”