Losing a child is the worst thing that can happen in any parent’s life…
But what if that child is actually living just around the corner from you and, every now and then, you pass on the street but you cannot even acknowledge his or her existence anymore?
And what if that child has attacked you publicly and on social media telling the world, naming you and shaming you, exposing you as the worst dad or mum ever and saying how much she hates you?
Welcome to the world of the broken-hearted, a world where, sadly, so many victims of parental alienation are condemned to live.
One man has been in his own world of pain for 17 years while lies and deceit have been used to drive what appears to be a wedge of solid steel between him and his daughter.
But sometimes there is safety in numbers and recently on social media the consumerwatchfoundation.com saw this list of people who have lost contact with their children … we are publishing more than 40 statements from ordinary people who have lost what is precious to them and then have been forced to lose a little more each day by the law, the courts, CAFCASS and social workers.
Please add your first name, how long you have been alienated from your son or daughter and a short comment. Do not name or identify your exes though.
We want to create a truthful and long-lasting document which can be used to highlight the truth about parental alienation.
Meanwhile, many parents find it so difficult to see their children that despite paying hundreds of pounds in maintenance they are also paying for supervised access. One man says this costs him EIGHTY pounds a time to spend two hours with his child.
Estranged parents – who have perhaps lost all contact because of lies that have been told about them by a bitter ex – are certainly vulnerable and to some suicide can appear to be the only way out.
NACSA, a lobbying group set up to fight the way the CSA hurt divorced people, actually published an online ‘Book of Death’ listing those who had taken their own lives because of stress and loss.
Sadly though, this type of comment appears on a daily basis on the Dad’s. Against. Double. Standards site highlighting the real despair parents without custody go through:
“Drunk and giving up on life, no point anymore, never gonna see my daughter grow up into the woman she’ll become…”
“Night all hope the drink and my meds work and I don’t wake up …”
“GOD finding it really hard to put the Christmas tree up my heart is just not in it this year…”
Andrew John Teague, admin at the site, said: “There is a phenomenon the world over, parental alienation. Hundreds of thousands are denied access to a loving and meaningful relationship with both parents.”
So, what is the longest time you have been kept from your children due to contact denial and allegations?
Top of Form
Dean: 12 years now
Brian: 7 months
Karl: Over a month I feel like I’m losing my mind how can this insanity be legal. Been having migraines from being so stressed out so angry and upset. Especially as I know it’s all from malice from day one of our separation.
Micheal: Now over two and half years with no end in sight.
Emma: Nearly 3 years mine and partners eldest we haven’t seen and judge when i went to court granted 0 hours cos she said we had to now wait til our eldest wants to come
Raymond: My son was born in December, still not seen him
Ian: 4 months
Andrew: I’m at 2yrs now
Danny: 7 years
Philip: 7 years and it hurts everyday
Jason: I haven’t seen or heard from my sons for nearly 12 years. My ex has remarried, changed her contact details and moved.
Mark: July 2nd 2014.
Mark: 20 years for my eldest child. 5 for my eldest daughter.
Snowy:12 years from my daughter 7 years from my son although I have re-established some contact with him
Asad: A year on 17th may. Feel like 10.
Nick: 10 months : (
Wes: 3 years 2 month. And the lies keep coming!
Gabrielle: It’s been 5 yrs.
Rich: Haven’t seen my children for over a year now, even though I’ve asked and tried to see them
David: A few months at a time, and then randomly
Ellis: 17 years and counting
Campbell: 3 year 6 month and ongoing
Jason: 24 years and after 21 years had the cheek to ask for money
Stephen: 4 years so far
Rebecca: Five years and counting.
Peter: I’m at. 2 years
Matthew: 4 months
Mark: 5 years
Shaun: 4 heart breaking years
Kierlan: April 16th 2016😪😪😪
Gary: 5yrs total + 2yrs partial and on-going…..
Paul: 5 months partial, now 8 months and counting.
Dave: This is horrible and so wrong going on 9 months for me feels like 9 years
Sinbad: 6 years, and then for the last 6 years , six one hour sessions in a contact centre with 2 people watching__ and continuing indefinitely ( he is 16 and only has memories of me in that environment)
Archie: 17 years fighting. 7 years not seeing.
Eamonn: 4 years still hard all too old for court now but we’ll poisoned
Chris: 22 months then allowed to see him twice in a month then 54 weeks now (he is 5) with my youngest. 16 years on my eldest son who is now 26
Barbara: Over 3 years
Karl: You know what I’d like to do with everyone’s permission. Is put a load of these comments into coloured words on a massive canvas that draw the image of a young child’s face to publicise our plight?